Thursday, October 31, 2013
Monday, October 28, 2013
Friday, October 25, 2013
Thursday, October 24, 2013
Happy 31st Birthday Allison Danielle!
Thank you for 31 derful years of love and laughter and joy and happiness!
I love you SO much and am OH so very proud of the AMAZING woman that you are!
Thursday, October 17, 2013
Wednesday, October 16, 2013
Breathe
In other words, get up, take a shower and go to work.
I am reminded of the darkest days of my lifetime--mid 2005--and how the "normal" things of life kept me alive. Getting up, going to work, getting mail, walking through Target...being hungry!
No matter what is happening in your world--this too shall pass.
Until then, be conscious of the tiny day to day things that you do in the meantime.
They will get you through.
Tuesday, October 15, 2013
Things I learned from my Nana
Today would have been my Nana's 100th Birthday. Born in 1913 she turned 50 the year I was born. I can only imagine how thrilled she was to have a granddaughter and, being 50 myself, I know she must have loved where she was in life. I celebrate my Nana today with a list of things that she taught me. I am forever grateful.
Things Nana taught me:
1. It’s never too late to start over. I was 41 when she strongly encouraged me to go ahead and start a new life. She kept saying, "You're SO young!!"
Things Nana taught me:
1. It’s never too late to start over. I was 41 when she strongly encouraged me to go ahead and start a new life. She kept saying, "You're SO young!!"
2. You need to clean your junk drawer out regularly. I loved going through her junk drawer. She had a place for everything and everything in its place! She was so organized and so well prepared for anything!
3. Oil of Olay is God's gift to women. She gave me a bottle every year at Mother's Day and Christmas. Perhaps it was the key to her very youthful skin, even into her 90s! I STILL use Oil of Olay.
3. Oil of Olay is God's gift to women. She gave me a bottle every year at Mother's Day and Christmas. Perhaps it was the key to her very youthful skin, even into her 90s! I STILL use Oil of Olay.
4. Dove soap is the best. The smell ALWAYS reminds me of her…every single day as I use the pink one.
6. If you see the Pope when you’re at the Vatican (which I did), your divorce is completely absolved.
7. You can fix just about anything with scotch tape. And lots of it.
8. Contact
paper makes EVERYTHING look better! And, actually, it fixes and makes
new just about anything that scotch tape is unable to repair.
9. It is very simple to ‘darn’ a sock. Four or five stitches and it’s like new! No need to EVERY buy a new pair! Sew a button back onto a shirt or a falling hem! Take care of your clothes and you won't need to buy new so often.
10. Traveling
is the best use of your time and money. And the BEST memory. In the
last few years of my grandparents’ lives—even in the nursing home—they were
STILL telling stories of their three months traveling Europe. It had
been nearly 40 years later.
11. It’s IMPORTANT to take care of yourself. Wash your clothes. Take a shower every day. Take a bubble bath, wash your hair, clip your nails. It feels so good to feel good!
12. Pop tarts taste good at any time of the day. Especially really hot on blue paper towels. (Maybe you had to be there.) It was our secret snack at night...
13. Snake cans never get old and are always funny. ALWAYS! She could be silly and funny and laughed a lot.
14. You
can survive anything. My Nana lost both breasts to cancer—25 years
apart. She lost her son in a car accident. She lost her husband many
years later. But she never lost her dignity, her sense of humor or her passion to serve her
family and others.
15. You
need to clean your house constantly to keep it looking good. Sweep,
mop, vacuum, wash the walls, the floors, keep laundry going, iron
everything…a clean house helps keep a clear mind. I LOVED watching her CLEAN and organize!
16. Save your money. My grandparents mentioned many times the fact that they outlived their money. Who knew they'd both live independently into their 90s? I think of this each day when I pay my bills and intentionally steer AWAY from Target.
16. Save your money. My grandparents mentioned many times the fact that they outlived their money. Who knew they'd both live independently into their 90s? I think of this each day when I pay my bills and intentionally steer AWAY from Target.
Oh how I miss my sweet Nana. I so wish I could go see and talk with her! She was such a good listener and OH how she understood me. I was open and honest with her and I think she'd have changed lives with me in a heartbeat. She was ASTONISHED when I traveled Europe on my own and could not believe that I went to Africa! She was proud of me.
I am grateful that I knew her well into my 40s. The lessons she taught me will never fade away. I lived the life she dreamed of--with encouragement from her.
Saturday, October 12, 2013
Friday, October 11, 2013
Declaration of Independence
I
depended greatly on the opinions and assistance and APPROVAL--of others--friends, parents, my
husband—and, I made most of my decisions according to what they told me to
do.
It wasn't that I didn't HAVE an opinion--I most certainly did--I just never felt like I was allowed to voice it. I lacked confidence. I never learned how to make a decision--and often made bad ones. I wasn't able to be honest with my parents and was always more concerned with boys--and the opinions of boys--than grades or reputation or self worth.
I obviously have come a long way in the last 8 1/2 years.
But, because of those many overly dependent years, I was determined to raise my kids differently.
I was honest about my mistakes with them. I helped them make decisions by asking them what they could do now that they would never be able to do again. I let them experience the consequences of poor decisions. I didn’t want them to NEED me or to always DEPEND on me--or need or depend on anybody else for that matter! I wanted them to LEARN HOW to make good decisions, to learn to TRUST their instincts, to learn how to SPEAK UP for themselves and to become completely independent as they crossed over into adulthood. I held them close, but didn't coddle. I helped them learn to help themselves. Yes, I taught them to fish...
I also told them that they could do ANYTHING! That they could go ANYWHERE! That the world was full of opportunities and places to go and things to do...and they were allowed--and encouraged--to wait to get married, travel the world...to have their own dreams...
and make them come true.
I obviously have come a long way in the last 8 1/2 years.
But, because of those many overly dependent years, I was determined to raise my kids differently.
I was honest about my mistakes with them. I helped them make decisions by asking them what they could do now that they would never be able to do again. I let them experience the consequences of poor decisions. I didn’t want them to NEED me or to always DEPEND on me--or need or depend on anybody else for that matter! I wanted them to LEARN HOW to make good decisions, to learn to TRUST their instincts, to learn how to SPEAK UP for themselves and to become completely independent as they crossed over into adulthood. I held them close, but didn't coddle. I helped them learn to help themselves. Yes, I taught them to fish...
I also told them that they could do ANYTHING! That they could go ANYWHERE! That the world was full of opportunities and places to go and things to do...and they were allowed--and encouraged--to wait to get married, travel the world...to have their own dreams...
and make them come true.
And, apparently, it worked.
Both of my kids are independent—financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually. They have made good decisions. They know how to speak up for themselves. They trust their instincts. At 28 and 30 years old, they are college educated, employed, well traveled, single and free to do whatever they like. And they are happy and healthy and productive….and enjoying life.
Oh so independently…
Of course this also means that I don’t see them very often and don’t hear from them very much.
From what I’ve heard, if you do parenting right, you’re supposed to work your way out of a job.
I know that I did a good job parenting.
From what I’ve heard, if you do parenting right, you’re supposed to work your way out of a job.
I know that I did a good job parenting.
And I know that they are good people because of that.
Though very independent, they are SURROUNDED by friends and activity and laughter and love.
And so am I.
I know that they know that I am ok. They know that I am working a job I love and traveling the world and I know that they are happy that I am happy.
Maybe, too, they both realize that I have finally learned the lessons that I was teaching them all along.
And so am I.
I know that they know that I am ok. They know that I am working a job I love and traveling the world and I know that they are happy that I am happy.
Maybe, too, they both realize that I have finally learned the lessons that I was teaching them all along.
Thursday, October 10, 2013
Sweet Charlotte
My SWEET friend, Charlotte, turned 92 this year. She comes into the hotel two or three times a week for a "dirty martini"...and some beautiful conversation. I want to be just like her at 92.
Wednesday, October 9, 2013
I have so much to say...
For the first time in MANY years, I have more to say and less time to say it in. I miss writing so much, but I've simply run out of time...
My mother has been in the hospital for nearly a month. No, that's not a reason, I suppose it's more of an excuse...but it's taken a bit of time out of my 'free time'--and it's a matter of priorities for sure.
I can't seem to catch up here at the house lately either. I've been working quite a bit--RARELY having two days off in a row--and, honestly, by the time I work a full day, go to the market, run an errand, do a load or two of laundry, make dinner and catch up on email...I'm thrashed! And days off are well spent before they even happen.
And there have been to more friends' birthday parties this year than ANY year before! Of course I go--usually after a long day at work--and OH how I enjoy every single one of those celebrations!
And...the Dodgers are in the post-season! Seriously--the last three years my cable has been turned off by this time and I was able to be productive again...! I am SO not complaining, and OH how I am loving the time in front of the TV with the boys in Blue--but it's cut deeply into my writing time.
I have a load in the washer right now, one in the dryer too. There is a crockpot of soup cooking for dinner and I'm watching the baseball game as I write THIS!
I have to get up and be productive...get the mail, water the plants...unload the dishwasher...
HOWEVER...I have a list of 22 blogs that are ready to be written. Another 15 or so ideas that are waiting for flesh. I come up with thoughts each day while I'm ironing, grocery shopping, while in the shower, in the car...taking the trash out...at birthday parties...at the hospital...
I'll be back.
My mother has been in the hospital for nearly a month. No, that's not a reason, I suppose it's more of an excuse...but it's taken a bit of time out of my 'free time'--and it's a matter of priorities for sure.
I can't seem to catch up here at the house lately either. I've been working quite a bit--RARELY having two days off in a row--and, honestly, by the time I work a full day, go to the market, run an errand, do a load or two of laundry, make dinner and catch up on email...I'm thrashed! And days off are well spent before they even happen.
And there have been to more friends' birthday parties this year than ANY year before! Of course I go--usually after a long day at work--and OH how I enjoy every single one of those celebrations!
And...the Dodgers are in the post-season! Seriously--the last three years my cable has been turned off by this time and I was able to be productive again...! I am SO not complaining, and OH how I am loving the time in front of the TV with the boys in Blue--but it's cut deeply into my writing time.
I have a load in the washer right now, one in the dryer too. There is a crockpot of soup cooking for dinner and I'm watching the baseball game as I write THIS!
I have to get up and be productive...get the mail, water the plants...unload the dishwasher...
HOWEVER...I have a list of 22 blogs that are ready to be written. Another 15 or so ideas that are waiting for flesh. I come up with thoughts each day while I'm ironing, grocery shopping, while in the shower, in the car...taking the trash out...at birthday parties...at the hospital...
I'll be back.
Tuesday, October 8, 2013
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